Parenting isn’t a practice, it’s a daily learning experience and in this journey, you need to be much calmer, composed, patient and giving than ever before. Every parent fights lot many odds to give the best to their child. They try their best to offer their kids a comfortable home, healthy lifestyle and the best education so that they become a successful personality tomorrow. In doing so much for their kids, they tend to miss on something very important, their bond with their child. A parent-child bond is an essential for healthy parenting and a joyful childhood. In becoming responsible parents and arranging everything to the best of their ability at times parents forget to spend time with their child, become friends with them and enjoy their company.
The problem starts with, Is he/she lying?
Was he/she hiding something?
She/he is immature and will again do silly mistakes?
Many such questions hover you continuously and finally, you end up making healthy parenting a nightmare. So, here we get some simple solutions for your complex problem which surely must be bothering you till now. They sound simple but prove to be the best solution for you to enjoy your relationship with your kids.
As parents, we are sensible enough to understand the importance of ‘Trust’ in every relationship. Then why do we tend to forget this principle when it comes to our kids? Why is always a doubt lingering when he/she asks to go out with friends? Why are you always sceptical in giving them permissions? Why do wrong thoughts and vague situations pop up in your head when they are out with friends? You do care which is an obvious reply but somewhere that care has taken the shape of doubt and raised a question on your trust? You don’t trust them when left alone with friends; you don’t trust their answers and start taking them as excuses. Stop doubting your kids and start trusting them, your trust would be a stepping stone in creating a friendly bond between you and your child.
Let’s Be Friends!
Any relation when starts with friendship last the longest be that friend to your child. Be their secret keeper and plan some fun together, you will enter their friend zone and come much closer. Being parents you are the closest to your child but when you will be their friends you won’t have to spy or keep a check on them, they will share their troubles and fears with you. Your relationship with them will grow to the next level.
Forget & Forgive
We all are humans and we tend to do mistakes, and so will your kids do. Being in the age group they are in, they will end up doing some mistakes but as parents, we need to forget them and move on without any baggage. Their past mistake should not govern their present or future, your decisions should not have a sense of fear because they did a mistake in past. We do mistakes, we improvise and we move ahead that’s the law of nature. As parents we are concerned but let the concern not remind them of their past mistakes. Don’t bring it up every time in the argument and make them feel bad, it was a mistake in the past let that be in the past.
It’s 21st Century – Fashion Matters!
Parents often don’t understand or misunderstand fashion, it’s nothing harmful or destructive, it’s something we should know and follow to stay tuned with the time. We send our kids to good schools and raise them well in the society, we expect them to be fast learners and smart personalities then why don’t we accept their fashion. We can definitely guide them and tell them where they go wrong but to say no to everything just because you think fashion is wrong is not justified. Accept the changing scenarios and your kids changing with them; guide them when they go wrong but with acceptance.
As parents take the first step and invite your kids to be your friends. You will love their company and they will love yours just hit the right track and start off now.