The season of examination has just subsided and few schools are still about to wrap up, the pressure, tension, and seriousness in the atmosphere was about to clear when the parents start with their moles of expectations and unbearable pressure for a good result.
Excessive academic pressure on kids can backfire severely and end up affecting the child negatively. The undue pressure and a constant greed of expectation from them may destroy a child’s calibre and a setback may break down his/her self-respect and confidence.
Worry, Worry, Worry!!
By parent’s constant pressure to perform better a child can feel less inspired and more threatened. You need to know and judge the child well, there are some who are confident and bold but some are shy and introvert. The manner to treat a child depends on his/her nature and behaviour. The pressure can make them feel paralyzed and then they won’t actually learn but just get mechanical about the whole process. They start feeling that they are not good enough and this invites stress and anxiety which can be very dangerous for their mental state. If your child expresses any signs of stress or anxiety take it seriously and talk to him/her about it. Help them feel better through encouraging talks and supportive atmosphere at home.
“I’m not good enough”
Your constant pressure and high expectations can make them fall a prey to low self-esteem and loss of confidence. If they miss your mark of expectation by the minimal difference it can cause bad mental impact in their minds. They will start believing that grades and marks are the only parameters to judge their hard work and efforts, which will cause them harm in the longer run. Spend time with your child and emphasize to them the importance of working hard and giving their best and that marks are just an output and you do not judge them on it.
Too much pressure to do well in school can involve kids in unethical practices as well. Your continuous pressure to get an A+ grade for all subjects can threaten a child and giving up to his/her fear they end up cheating and getting involved in all such practices. At times too much stress and anxiety may also involve them in malpractices of drugs and alcohol, so keep a watch on your Childs behaviour and never stress the fact that marks are the only motive of their life.
Always be there for your Child
Every parent wants their child to do well in life and that’s one reason they pressure their child for academic growth but always remember encouragement is better than pressure. Understand your child and his/her emotions, every child is different so don’t compare. They will know the seriousness of doing well in exams and living up to your expectation but let them live their childhood and enjoy their innocence.
Let them choose their favourite subject and give them the time to go out and play, they will make their future just give them their space.