Education

Bond with Your Kids – Parent-Child Bonding!

Parenting isn’t a practice, it’s a daily learning experience and in this journey, you need to be much calmer, composed, patient and giving than ever before. Every parent fights lot many odds to give the best to their child. They try their best to offer their kids a comfortable home, healthy lifestyle and the best education so that they become a successful personality tomorrow. In doing so much for their kids, they tend to miss on something very important, their bond with their child. A parent-child bond is an essential for healthy parenting and a joyful childhood. In becoming responsible parents and arranging everything to the best of their ability at times parents forget to spend time with their child, become friends with them and enjoy their company.

The problem starts with, Is he/she lying?
Was he/she hiding something?
She/he is immature and will again do silly mistakes?

Many such questions hover you continuously and finally, you end up making healthy parenting a nightmare. So, here we get some simple solutions for your complex problem which surely must be bothering you till now. They sound simple but prove to be the best solution for you to enjoy your relationship with your kids.

Trust Me!

As parents, we are sensible enough to understand the importance of ‘Trust’ in every relationship. Then why do we tend to forget this principle when it comes to our kids? Why is always a doubt lingering when he/she asks to go out with friends? Why are you always sceptical in giving them permissions? Why do wrong thoughts and vague situations pop up in your head when they are out with friends? You do care which is an obvious reply but somewhere that care has taken the shape of doubt and raised a question on your trust? You don’t trust them when left alone with friends; you don’t trust their answers and start taking them as excuses. Stop doubting your kids and start trusting them, your trust would be a stepping stone in creating a friendly bond between you and your child.

Let’s Be Friends!

Any relation when starts with friendship last the longest be that friend to your child. Be their secret keeper and plan some fun together, you will enter their friend zone and come much closer. Being parents you are the closest to your child but when you will be their friends you won’t have to spy or keep a check on them, they will share their troubles and fears with you. Your relationship with them will grow to the next level.

Forget & Forgive

We all are humans and we tend to do mistakes, and so will your kids do. Being in the age group they are in, they will end up doing some mistakes but as parents, we need to forget them and move on without any baggage. Their past mistake should not govern their present or future, your decisions should not have a sense of fear because they did a mistake in past. We do mistakes, we improvise and we move ahead that’s the law of nature. As parents we are concerned but let the concern not remind them of their past mistakes. Don’t bring it up every time in the argument and make them feel bad, it was a mistake in the past let that be in the past.

It’s 21st Century – Fashion Matters!

Parents often don’t understand or misunderstand fashion, it’s nothing harmful or destructive, it’s something we should know and follow to stay tuned with the time. We send our kids to good schools and raise them well in the society, we expect them to be fast learners and smart personalities then why don’t we accept their fashion. We can definitely guide them and tell them where they go wrong but to say no to everything just because you think fashion is wrong is not justified. Accept the changing scenarios and your kids changing with them; guide them when they go wrong but with acceptance.

As parents take the first step and invite your kids to be your friends. You will love their company and they will love yours just hit the right track and start off now.

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Here is how GST will strike the Education Sector

India’s biggest tax reform, GST was finally implemented yesterday midnight after all the hullabaloo. As explained by the government the intention of GST is to simplify the taxation process by eliminating the multiple taxation systems and replacing it with a single tax, which will also have its impact on the education sector. The education sector has from always been a vital segment; the nation’s objective is to provide the best quality education to the children, who are the future of our nation.

According to GST, products like colouring books, exercise books, notebooks, crayons will come under the bracket of 12% whereas, for pens and school bags, it would be 18%. Some of the education institutes also get the exception from GST and same goes for some traditional courses. However, some of the services that would be exempted from the GST as per the GST Act are as follows:

  • Services provided by the training providers (Project implementation agencies) under Deen Dayal Upadhayaya training courses certified by National Council for Vocational Training.
  • Services of assessing bodies empanelled centrally by Directorate General of Training Ministry of Skill Development and Entrepreneurship by way of assessments under Skill Development Initiative Scheme.
  • Services by way of training activities relating to arts or culture or sports by charitable entities registered under section 12AA of Income Act, 1961

GST for sure will get lot many changes in every sector and education is no exception. As this particular sector has from always been a sensitive one which has enjoyed various benefits of exceptions, let’s see with GST how does it differ. Hoping the best for the economy and the nation on the whole let’s see how what benefits will GST get for the education sector.

Natural Learning is the Classic Learning!

Spending vacations at grandmother’s home, playing out in the park, cycling in the evening and enjoying the childhood games were a beautiful part of our memories. These memories not only gave us pleasure and enjoyment but made us learn many valuable lessons of life. The concept of team spirit was practically learned on the fields while putting our 100% in a cricket match to make our team win. The idea of unity is strength was learned while trying to dribble the basket ball for the first time. The concept of sharing was imbibed from the craft sessions in which we shared our colours and ideas to make the masterpiece together.

These childhood memories were an important learning ground for the children earlier but today, somewhere technology has given it a new version. It’s not that technology is bad and only has adverse effects but somewhere their overuse has affected our kid’s natural process of learning. In today’s time, kids enter into their isolated world with their video games and I-pads and miss out a lot. Inculcating empathy, a sense of care and the concept of sharing in the kids has become difficult as they resist in moving out of their isolated world.

As parents and teachers we need to cater to their isolation, because in no time they will get habitual to it and then taking them out of this zone will become very difficult.

Here we enlist certain points which as parents/teachers or guides  we need to follow and keep in mind to develop the much required qualities of empathy, caring, sharing, unity and more in our kids.

The Art of Observation

More than what is been said, how that has been said, the tone, the body language, the gestures count a lot. Now as adults and experience holders of life we have learned this art of decoding but our kids are just the beginners in this game of life. So, you need to teach them the art of observation. Let them explore and make them meet people; it can be their friends from school, the colony you stay in, relatives, siblings and more. When they will start meeting more people they will start learning the different behaviour patterns. Talk about these meetings of friends and relatives with them later and try to know how they feel about it. This will make them more observant and will make them learn how to deal with different behaviour patterns.
Become their co-readers

Good books not only add knowledge but also make kid compassionate and responsive. Many such books must be a part of their reading list, just be aware of the story and the characters in it. Discuss the stories or a particular scene in it with them and try and know what they feel about the entire thing.

Involve them in Act of Kindness

It doesn’t have to be big, anything small and sensitive enough would do. Asking them to share some of their toys and clothes with children who need them, asking them to share their lunch box with their friends in case his/her friend is not carrying one. Telling them how getting a smile on someone’s face makes you feel great about yourself. These small things are enough to introduce them the big concept of kindness.

Get to know their friends: During the vacation or weekends plan a get together for their friends don’t make your presence annoying or uncomfortable for them rather come up with something new. Some interesting conversation or an engaging game and in the process learn about their friends, how is their company and if they are in the right group matters a lot.

The world is changing and the pace of development is increasing every day let this development benefit your child but be ready to protect them from the adverse effects as well. Let the classics of learning be the same for them as they were for you, so they share your reflection!

Introduce Buddhism to your child!

Gautama Buddha, also known as Siddhartha Buddha was a sage who started to impact thousands of lives in sixth and fourth BCE (Before Common Era) with his profound spiritual wisdom. The word ‘Buddha’ means the enlightened one or the awakened one. No matter what religion you follow what culture you have been born and brought up in, Buddha’s teachings are universal. His teachings have the strength to awaken people to reality and make them introspect themselves. Lord Buddha’s teachings have not only given a deeper insight into one’s existence but also made a significant contribution in liberating one from the day-to-day conflicts in minds.
Here are the best books to introduce Buddhism to your children, usually they get to know about Gautama Buddha through a chapter in history but there is definitely more to know, learn and practice from his teachings. Introduce any of these books to your child and let them, explore Buddhism and add positivity to their personality.
The Story of Buddha by Geshe Kelsang Gyatso
Lovely illustrations and an ease to follow the story about the life of the young Buddha. A great introduction for all ages, Geshe Kelsang Gyatso was born in Tibet and is a fully accomplished meditation master and internationally renowned teacher of Buddhism. Resident in the West since 1977, he is the author of 21 highly acclaimed books that perfectly transmit the ancient wisdom of Buddhism to our modern world. He has also founded over 1100 Kadampa Buddhist Centres and groups throughout the world.

A Handful of Quiet: Happiness in Four Pebbles by Thich Nhat Hahn
A Handful of Quiet presents one of the best known and most innovative meditation practices developed by Thich Nhat Hanh as part of the Plum Village community’s practice with children. Pebble meditation is a playful and fun activity that parents and educators can do with their children to introduce them to meditation. It is designed to involve children in a hands-on and creative way that touches on their interconnection with nature. Practicing pebble meditation can help relieve stress, increase concentration, nourish gratitude, and can help children deal with difficult emotions. A Handful of Quiet is a concrete activity that parents and educators can introduce to children in school settings, in their local communities or at home, in a way that is meaningful and inviting. It includes four full-colour meditation cards with short mindfulness poems that are recited during the meditation. Any adult wishing to plant seeds of peace, relaxation, and awareness in children will find this unique meditation guide helpful. Children can also enjoy doing pebble meditation on their own.

Is Nothing Something? By Thich Nhat Hanh
In Is Nothing Something? Zen Master Thich Nhat Hanh answers heartfelt, difficult, and funny questions from children of all ages. Illustrated with original full-colour artwork by Jessica McClure, Is Nothing Something? This will help adults plant the seeds of mindfulness in the young children in their lives. Beginning with the most basic questions, what is important in life? And why is my brother mean to me? And progressing through issues that we all wrestle with, such as how do I know if I really love somebody? , How long am I going to live? , and what does God look like? , each page presents a question with a short answer from Thich Nhat Hanh, appropriate for beginning readers to work with on their own. The back of the book has practices adults can use with their children to go deeper into the answers and the first complete children s biography of Thich Nhat Hanh. Both humorous and profound, is Nothing Something? is the perfect resource for kids with questions, adults looking for how to answer them, and anyone with questions of their own.

Buddha at Bedtime Tales of Love and Wisdom by Dharmachari- Nagaraja
Growing up in the modern world, our children have to cope with the ever-increasing amount of stress, which can hinder their development. The ancient wisdom of Buddhism, with its emphasis on peace, love, and compassion, is the ideal basis for helping any child to face these challenges with inner confidence and calm. Building on the age-old art of storytelling, this beautiful book re-tells 20 ancient Buddhist tales in a way that is thoroughly fun and accessible to children. Featuring superb, full-page illustrations, the stories will transport kids into an imaginary world of enlightenment and discovery where they will meet delightful characters and discover an easy-to-understand Buddhist message, one that will help them think about how they can apply values such as patience, perseverance, honesty and generosity to their own lives. Designed to be read aloud by a parent or read by older children on their own, these compelling narratives provide a pleasurable, soothing transition into sleep.

Sitting Still like a Frog by Eline Snel
Mindfulness—the quality of attention that combines full awareness with acceptance of each moment, just as it is. Is gaining broad acceptance among mental health professionals as an adjunct to treatment. This little book is a very appealing introduction to mindfulness meditation for children and their parents. In a simple and accessible way, it describes what mindfulness is and how mindfulness-based practices can help children calm down, become more focused, fall asleep more easily, alleviate worry, manage anger, and generally become more patient and aware. The book contains eleven practices that focus on just these scenarios, along with short examples and anecdotes throughout. Included with purchase is an audio CD with guided meditations, voiced by Myla Kabat-Zinn, who along with her husband, Jon Kabat-Zinn, popularized mindfulness-based stress reduction (MBSR) as a therapeutic approach.

Wide Awake: A Buddhist Guide for Teens by Diana Winston
Many of today’s teenagers are tired of the pressure to compete and consume and are looking for a different way to live their lives. This book offers an alternative, the 2,500-year old practice of Buddhism, written in a style that will have immediate appeal to young “seekers” and those wanting to understand the ancient teachings. This book addresses such relevant topics as peer pressure, emotional difficulties, stress, fostering peace and even protecting the environment. For everyone looking for self-help, self-esteem, and self-awareness, this book offers advice on Discovering truth in a world of hype, Accepting ourselves, Working with difficult emotions, Dealing with temptations and making the right decisions about sex and drugs and advice on volunteering, working for peace and protecting the environment.

The Barefoot Book of Buddhist Tales adapted by Sherab Chodzin
The Buddha taught that life is like a dream, yet real. The ways in which we may fruitfully engage with this mystery are playfully explored in numerous tales from the folk traditions of countries including India, China, Japan and Tibet.

As a child, Siddhartha the Buddha was troubled by some of the same thoughts that children today have. They wonder about birth and death. They wonder why they get sick and why grandfather died. They wonder why their wishes do not come true. Children also wonder about happiness and the beauty in nature.
Because the Buddha knew what was in the hearts of children and humankind, he taught everyone how to live a happy and peaceful life. Buddhism is not learning about strange beliefs from faraway lands. It is about looking at and thinking about our own lives. With these books on Buddha may be your child gets many queries settled, many doubts resolved and many questions answered.

A Disclaimer for Parents Before Result Time

The season of examination has just subsided and few schools are still about to wrap up, the pressure, tension, and seriousness in the atmosphere was about to clear when the parents start with their moles of expectations and unbearable pressure for a good result.

Excessive academic pressure on kids can backfire severely and end up affecting the child negatively. The undue pressure and a constant greed of expectation from them may destroy a child’s calibre and a setback may break down his/her self-respect and confidence.

Worry, Worry, Worry!!

By parent’s constant pressure to perform better a child can feel less inspired and more threatened. You need to know and judge the child well, there are some who are confident and bold but some are shy and introvert. The manner to treat a child depends on his/her nature and behaviour. The pressure can make them feel paralyzed and then they won’t actually learn but just get mechanical about the whole process. They start feeling that they are not good enough and this invites stress and anxiety which can be very dangerous for their mental state. If your child expresses any signs of stress or anxiety take it seriously and talk to him/her about it. Help them feel better through encouraging talks and supportive atmosphere at home.

“I’m not good enough”

Your constant pressure and high expectations can make them fall a prey to low self-esteem and loss of confidence. If they miss your mark of expectation by the minimal difference it can cause bad mental impact in their minds. They will start believing that grades and marks are the only parameters to judge their hard work and efforts, which will cause them harm in the longer run. Spend time with your child and emphasize to them the importance of working hard and giving their best and that marks are just an output and you do not judge them on it.

Bad Behaviour

Too much pressure to do well in school can involve kids in unethical practices as well. Your continuous pressure to get an A+ grade for all subjects can threaten a child and giving up to his/her fear they end up cheating and getting involved in all such practices. At times too much stress and anxiety may also involve them in malpractices of drugs and alcohol, so keep a watch on your Childs behaviour and never stress the fact that marks are the only motive of their life.

Always be there for your Child

Every parent wants their child to do well in life and that’s one reason they pressure their child for academic growth but always remember encouragement is better than pressure. Understand your child and his/her emotions, every child is different so don’t compare. They will know the seriousness of doing well in exams and living up to your expectation but let them live their childhood and enjoy their innocence.

Let them choose their favourite subject and give them the time to go out and play, they will make their future just give them their space.