holistic development

Bond with Your Kids – Parent-Child Bonding!

Parenting isn’t a practice, it’s a daily learning experience and in this journey, you need to be much calmer, composed, patient and giving than ever before. Every parent fights lot many odds to give the best to their child. They try their best to offer their kids a comfortable home, healthy lifestyle and the best education so that they become a successful personality tomorrow. In doing so much for their kids, they tend to miss on something very important, their bond with their child. A parent-child bond is an essential for healthy parenting and a joyful childhood. In becoming responsible parents and arranging everything to the best of their ability at times parents forget to spend time with their child, become friends with them and enjoy their company.

The problem starts with, Is he/she lying?
Was he/she hiding something?
She/he is immature and will again do silly mistakes?

Many such questions hover you continuously and finally, you end up making healthy parenting a nightmare. So, here we get some simple solutions for your complex problem which surely must be bothering you till now. They sound simple but prove to be the best solution for you to enjoy your relationship with your kids.

Trust Me!

As parents, we are sensible enough to understand the importance of ‘Trust’ in every relationship. Then why do we tend to forget this principle when it comes to our kids? Why is always a doubt lingering when he/she asks to go out with friends? Why are you always sceptical in giving them permissions? Why do wrong thoughts and vague situations pop up in your head when they are out with friends? You do care which is an obvious reply but somewhere that care has taken the shape of doubt and raised a question on your trust? You don’t trust them when left alone with friends; you don’t trust their answers and start taking them as excuses. Stop doubting your kids and start trusting them, your trust would be a stepping stone in creating a friendly bond between you and your child.

Let’s Be Friends!

Any relation when starts with friendship last the longest be that friend to your child. Be their secret keeper and plan some fun together, you will enter their friend zone and come much closer. Being parents you are the closest to your child but when you will be their friends you won’t have to spy or keep a check on them, they will share their troubles and fears with you. Your relationship with them will grow to the next level.

Forget & Forgive

We all are humans and we tend to do mistakes, and so will your kids do. Being in the age group they are in, they will end up doing some mistakes but as parents, we need to forget them and move on without any baggage. Their past mistake should not govern their present or future, your decisions should not have a sense of fear because they did a mistake in past. We do mistakes, we improvise and we move ahead that’s the law of nature. As parents we are concerned but let the concern not remind them of their past mistakes. Don’t bring it up every time in the argument and make them feel bad, it was a mistake in the past let that be in the past.

It’s 21st Century – Fashion Matters!

Parents often don’t understand or misunderstand fashion, it’s nothing harmful or destructive, it’s something we should know and follow to stay tuned with the time. We send our kids to good schools and raise them well in the society, we expect them to be fast learners and smart personalities then why don’t we accept their fashion. We can definitely guide them and tell them where they go wrong but to say no to everything just because you think fashion is wrong is not justified. Accept the changing scenarios and your kids changing with them; guide them when they go wrong but with acceptance.

As parents take the first step and invite your kids to be your friends. You will love their company and they will love yours just hit the right track and start off now.

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Integrating art into the classroom

Art is the basic expression of the human mind and the creative reflection of the world we live in. Today we have realised that art has to be incorporated to make the learning process more interesting. Arts being integrated into the curriculum will prove beneficial for both the child as well as teachers in long run. As this century demands more of experiential learning than traditional learning as it makes children enjoy their subjects. Though we cannot move away from the fact that traditional learning is still the backbone of our educational system. Teachers are incorporating arts into the curriculum; they are increasingly integrating arts into the core subject areas. Art has the power to engage children in experiential learning so that children can learn more through the experience of their activity.

It should be promoted as stand-alone subjects as well as a cross curricular subject in all schools.

There are a couple of programmes which are designed to help arts integrate well into the classroom.

The Children Programmes plays a pivotal role as this is majorly designed to involve and inspire children. We need to start by encouraging children to participate and get involved in speaking like elocutions, extempore, debates. Even vocabulary can play a great role as having great word power works like an asset during delivering a speech or even during writing a script or content.

We must indulge children into art work like preparing collage on the topic they have studied. The artwork could illustrate anything related to their subjects. Through this artwork, it would help them explore their areas of interest and even help them understand their subject.

Encourage children to participate in drama. Asking them to involve in role playing as through this they would be able to understand a story character or event.

Involving children in activities like brochure, posture or advertisement making which help them with graphic skills and creative thinking.

Lastly, we must introduce children to artistic works that match their curriculum. Mythology and ancient stories throughout the century have inspired sculptures.

Teachers must be aware of various cultures across the globe including our nation. They must explore and be able to inculcate this amongst children. Art is an integral part so it cannot be skipped. Art must be appreciated by all.  Teachers should even come up with ideas, thoughts to improve art skills, so that children are able to understand the value and have a constant view of improving their art skills. As we move towards the century where arts will play a major role, let’s incorporate art into the teaching methodology.

Introduce Buddhism to your child!

Gautama Buddha, also known as Siddhartha Buddha was a sage who started to impact thousands of lives in sixth and fourth BCE (Before Common Era) with his profound spiritual wisdom. The word ‘Buddha’ means the enlightened one or the awakened one. No matter what religion you follow what culture you have been born and brought up in, Buddha’s teachings are universal. His teachings have the strength to awaken people to reality and make them introspect themselves. Lord Buddha’s teachings have not only given a deeper insight into one’s existence but also made a significant contribution in liberating one from the day-to-day conflicts in minds.
Here are the best books to introduce Buddhism to your children, usually they get to know about Gautama Buddha through a chapter in history but there is definitely more to know, learn and practice from his teachings. Introduce any of these books to your child and let them, explore Buddhism and add positivity to their personality.
The Story of Buddha by Geshe Kelsang Gyatso
Lovely illustrations and an ease to follow the story about the life of the young Buddha. A great introduction for all ages, Geshe Kelsang Gyatso was born in Tibet and is a fully accomplished meditation master and internationally renowned teacher of Buddhism. Resident in the West since 1977, he is the author of 21 highly acclaimed books that perfectly transmit the ancient wisdom of Buddhism to our modern world. He has also founded over 1100 Kadampa Buddhist Centres and groups throughout the world.

A Handful of Quiet: Happiness in Four Pebbles by Thich Nhat Hahn
A Handful of Quiet presents one of the best known and most innovative meditation practices developed by Thich Nhat Hanh as part of the Plum Village community’s practice with children. Pebble meditation is a playful and fun activity that parents and educators can do with their children to introduce them to meditation. It is designed to involve children in a hands-on and creative way that touches on their interconnection with nature. Practicing pebble meditation can help relieve stress, increase concentration, nourish gratitude, and can help children deal with difficult emotions. A Handful of Quiet is a concrete activity that parents and educators can introduce to children in school settings, in their local communities or at home, in a way that is meaningful and inviting. It includes four full-colour meditation cards with short mindfulness poems that are recited during the meditation. Any adult wishing to plant seeds of peace, relaxation, and awareness in children will find this unique meditation guide helpful. Children can also enjoy doing pebble meditation on their own.

Is Nothing Something? By Thich Nhat Hanh
In Is Nothing Something? Zen Master Thich Nhat Hanh answers heartfelt, difficult, and funny questions from children of all ages. Illustrated with original full-colour artwork by Jessica McClure, Is Nothing Something? This will help adults plant the seeds of mindfulness in the young children in their lives. Beginning with the most basic questions, what is important in life? And why is my brother mean to me? And progressing through issues that we all wrestle with, such as how do I know if I really love somebody? , How long am I going to live? , and what does God look like? , each page presents a question with a short answer from Thich Nhat Hanh, appropriate for beginning readers to work with on their own. The back of the book has practices adults can use with their children to go deeper into the answers and the first complete children s biography of Thich Nhat Hanh. Both humorous and profound, is Nothing Something? is the perfect resource for kids with questions, adults looking for how to answer them, and anyone with questions of their own.

Buddha at Bedtime Tales of Love and Wisdom by Dharmachari- Nagaraja
Growing up in the modern world, our children have to cope with the ever-increasing amount of stress, which can hinder their development. The ancient wisdom of Buddhism, with its emphasis on peace, love, and compassion, is the ideal basis for helping any child to face these challenges with inner confidence and calm. Building on the age-old art of storytelling, this beautiful book re-tells 20 ancient Buddhist tales in a way that is thoroughly fun and accessible to children. Featuring superb, full-page illustrations, the stories will transport kids into an imaginary world of enlightenment and discovery where they will meet delightful characters and discover an easy-to-understand Buddhist message, one that will help them think about how they can apply values such as patience, perseverance, honesty and generosity to their own lives. Designed to be read aloud by a parent or read by older children on their own, these compelling narratives provide a pleasurable, soothing transition into sleep.

Sitting Still like a Frog by Eline Snel
Mindfulness—the quality of attention that combines full awareness with acceptance of each moment, just as it is. Is gaining broad acceptance among mental health professionals as an adjunct to treatment. This little book is a very appealing introduction to mindfulness meditation for children and their parents. In a simple and accessible way, it describes what mindfulness is and how mindfulness-based practices can help children calm down, become more focused, fall asleep more easily, alleviate worry, manage anger, and generally become more patient and aware. The book contains eleven practices that focus on just these scenarios, along with short examples and anecdotes throughout. Included with purchase is an audio CD with guided meditations, voiced by Myla Kabat-Zinn, who along with her husband, Jon Kabat-Zinn, popularized mindfulness-based stress reduction (MBSR) as a therapeutic approach.

Wide Awake: A Buddhist Guide for Teens by Diana Winston
Many of today’s teenagers are tired of the pressure to compete and consume and are looking for a different way to live their lives. This book offers an alternative, the 2,500-year old practice of Buddhism, written in a style that will have immediate appeal to young “seekers” and those wanting to understand the ancient teachings. This book addresses such relevant topics as peer pressure, emotional difficulties, stress, fostering peace and even protecting the environment. For everyone looking for self-help, self-esteem, and self-awareness, this book offers advice on Discovering truth in a world of hype, Accepting ourselves, Working with difficult emotions, Dealing with temptations and making the right decisions about sex and drugs and advice on volunteering, working for peace and protecting the environment.

The Barefoot Book of Buddhist Tales adapted by Sherab Chodzin
The Buddha taught that life is like a dream, yet real. The ways in which we may fruitfully engage with this mystery are playfully explored in numerous tales from the folk traditions of countries including India, China, Japan and Tibet.

As a child, Siddhartha the Buddha was troubled by some of the same thoughts that children today have. They wonder about birth and death. They wonder why they get sick and why grandfather died. They wonder why their wishes do not come true. Children also wonder about happiness and the beauty in nature.
Because the Buddha knew what was in the hearts of children and humankind, he taught everyone how to live a happy and peaceful life. Buddhism is not learning about strange beliefs from faraway lands. It is about looking at and thinking about our own lives. With these books on Buddha may be your child gets many queries settled, many doubts resolved and many questions answered.

A Disclaimer for Parents Before Result Time

The season of examination has just subsided and few schools are still about to wrap up, the pressure, tension, and seriousness in the atmosphere was about to clear when the parents start with their moles of expectations and unbearable pressure for a good result.

Excessive academic pressure on kids can backfire severely and end up affecting the child negatively. The undue pressure and a constant greed of expectation from them may destroy a child’s calibre and a setback may break down his/her self-respect and confidence.

Worry, Worry, Worry!!

By parent’s constant pressure to perform better a child can feel less inspired and more threatened. You need to know and judge the child well, there are some who are confident and bold but some are shy and introvert. The manner to treat a child depends on his/her nature and behaviour. The pressure can make them feel paralyzed and then they won’t actually learn but just get mechanical about the whole process. They start feeling that they are not good enough and this invites stress and anxiety which can be very dangerous for their mental state. If your child expresses any signs of stress or anxiety take it seriously and talk to him/her about it. Help them feel better through encouraging talks and supportive atmosphere at home.

“I’m not good enough”

Your constant pressure and high expectations can make them fall a prey to low self-esteem and loss of confidence. If they miss your mark of expectation by the minimal difference it can cause bad mental impact in their minds. They will start believing that grades and marks are the only parameters to judge their hard work and efforts, which will cause them harm in the longer run. Spend time with your child and emphasize to them the importance of working hard and giving their best and that marks are just an output and you do not judge them on it.

Bad Behaviour

Too much pressure to do well in school can involve kids in unethical practices as well. Your continuous pressure to get an A+ grade for all subjects can threaten a child and giving up to his/her fear they end up cheating and getting involved in all such practices. At times too much stress and anxiety may also involve them in malpractices of drugs and alcohol, so keep a watch on your Childs behaviour and never stress the fact that marks are the only motive of their life.

Always be there for your Child

Every parent wants their child to do well in life and that’s one reason they pressure their child for academic growth but always remember encouragement is better than pressure. Understand your child and his/her emotions, every child is different so don’t compare. They will know the seriousness of doing well in exams and living up to your expectation but let them live their childhood and enjoy their innocence.

Let them choose their favourite subject and give them the time to go out and play, they will make their future just give them their space.

Here’s a Plan for Your Child’s Summer Break!

The sun has come out all bright and hot and vacations are about to start. There is planning going on in every mind and the list been prepared for fun, frolic and some great time! Your little ones are really excited and looking forward to these 2 months of official off from their schools and academics. You need to be excited with them too, show them that excitement and make some thrilling summer plans with them so that their holidays are real fun.

They go to school daily and have tons of homework to be done, now is the time that they can enjoy some break and have some fun. Plan their summers in a manner which they enjoy, don’t bombard them with a set of learning activities which they don’t enjoy. Keep in mind their hobbies and choices and draft a plan in which they learn, enjoy and have some fun.

Here we make you ready so that you can make an amazing summer plan for your champ. Keep the below-mentioned points in minds and don’t forget personalization is the best so keep your child’s preferences and choices as your priority while planning for them.

Make It Unusual: In today’s time children have grown that extra edge they are technology friendly and know far more than you may know as a parent. So, try and be unusual and don’t stick to the traditional summer holiday plan, add a little creativity and make it fun for them.

It’s a break don’t make it school: Usually, parents have a tendency to bombard their kids with different types of summer learning activity ignoring the fact whether the kid appreciates it or not. Don’t make the holidays feel like another semi-school, if they enjoy dancing or music or art get them into those classes and if their interest’s lies outside classes let them be.

Plan it week by week: This will keep them interested and engaged because every week they will be introduced to do something new. Children initially have a very short interest span so to keep them involved you need to make it interesting by adding something new frequently. A week basis plan will be fun for them.

Introduce them to a new thing: Keeping your child’s interest and choices in mind, take a step towards introducing them to something new. If your child is interested is in maths and computers may be a workshop can work for you, if he/she has interests in art then may a craft class can do wonders. So, the idea is to introduce them to something keeping in mind their interest so that they can take it to the next level and the break turns into something fruitful as well.

Bond with them: This is a major chunk of their time which you can get without schools and much of the academic pressure so use it the best. Talk with them; get to know about their news beliefs, interests and friends. Plan a get together with them and invite all their friends home, don’t intervene their privacy let them enjoy the party but do try and meet their friends just to be assured of their company.

Let your child’s summer break be their time to enjoy and rejuvenate. Let them have a good break so that they can get back in the race with full enthusiasm and zeal. Don’t monitor them much and let them follow their hobbies and interest and do something creative this summer.