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Time to learn – How to talk to your Child!

“Children learn more from what you are than from what you teach.” Parenting is the most crucial and vital responsibility which needs to be met with an understanding attitude and a capability to listen, learn and teach. You should understand that it’s not always the parents who teach and impart wisdom it can be the other way round too. Be prepared to learn new things, admire their thought process and have the willingness and openness to appreciate it.

Children literally imbibe everything which they see and hear around them, this goes a long way in building their personality.

At times when you are in the middle of things and in all that rush, you end up speaking out unintentional words which land up very negatively in a child’s mind. You might not mean it, it was just lack of time or some sort of confusion going around but it has a very bad impact on your child’s mind.

So, you need to be extra careful and watch what you speak and it does not limit to only them. Be careful while talking to others as well when children are in proximity, as it is you should always be polite and good while talking to others but be little more alert when children are involved. Little bit of effort and a strong will, will make it happen!

Watch out for these 10 things which you should refrain from saying to your child.

Never say – ‘you are a bad boy/girl’

Never feed them with negative thoughts or actions, don’t give them any kind of fear. It hampers a child’s self-esteem when you categorize them as a bad boy or a girl. Explain them things, talk to them about positive good things. Don’t tell them that doing a mistake or anything mischievous will make them bad rather make them understand how their actions can hurt others and they will learn values rather than fearing to be bad and doing the right thing out of compulsion.

Don’t Compare

Don’t ever do this mistake of passing statements like ‘Why can’t you be like your brother/sister?’ This not only inculcates a feeling of jealousy in them but also makes them feel like a failure. Don’t make them feel weak or incompetent in any manner, this may also develop a dislike between siblings.

A straight NO is too HARSH

If you keep saying no to them every now and then they will start losing faith in you. A straight no comes too harsh, modulate that no into something soft and polite and then say it. Instead of shouting out a NO to play inside the house tell them the weather is so good outside lets go in the park and play.

‘You can’t do this!’ is not the right way to say

Never shake a child’s self-confidence by de-motivating them, there might be certain things you know your child won’t be able to successfully accomplish but still never discourage him/her. There are better ways to put your point across, tell them do it and if you face any problem let me know, and we will do it together. This will encourage them to try new things and will also help build their confidence.

‘Don’t talk to me’ goes wrong

Never abandon your child, this will turn very negative and can have a very bad impact on a child. If they have done something wrong try explaining those things, listening to them and answering all their questions so that they understand their mistake and being careful in future.

Don’t say ‘Girls/Boys don’t do that’

Never do any kind of gender discrimination between children, be it for small things even this brings negativity and in the long run inculcates disrespect in the mind of a child for the opposite gender.

‘You are too big to do this!’

Don’t deprive him/her of their childhood, they will eventually grow up but for now, let them enjoy their childhood and don’t expect them to behave like grownups. Yes they might be mischievous but they are allowed to be that at this tender change, teach them discipline but on the other hand let them enjoy their childhood too.

Keep in mind these small points and you will be able to deliver a better atmosphere to your child, not only you will be able to understand them better but also your child will love your company and will make you his/her secret sharer.

“Children learn more from what you are than from what you teach.” Parenting is the most crucial and vital responsibility which needs to be met with an understanding attitude and a capability to listen, learn and teach. You should understand that it’s not always the parents who teach and impart wisdom it can be the other way round too. Be prepared to learn new things, admire their thought process and have the willingness and openness to appreciate it.

Children literally imbibe everything which they see and hear around them, this goes a long way in building their personality.

At times when you are in the middle of things and in all that rush, you end up speaking out unintentional words which land up very negatively in a child’s mind. You might not mean it, it was just lack of time or some sort of confusion going around but it has a very bad impact on your child’s mind.

So, you need to be extra careful and watch what you speak and it does not limit to only them. Be careful while talking to others as well when children are in proximity, as it is you should always be polite and good while talking to others but be little more alert when children are involved. Little bit of effort and a strong will, will make it happen!

Watch out for these 10 things which you should refrain from saying to your child.

Never say – ‘you are a bad boy/girl’

Never feed them with negative thoughts or actions, don’t give them any kind of fear. It hampers a child’s self-esteem when you categorize them as a bad boy or a girl. Explain them things, talk to them about positive good things. Don’t tell them that doing a mistake or anything mischievous will make them bad rather make them understand how their actions can hurt others and they will learn values rather than fearing to be bad and doing the right thing out of compulsion.

Don’t Compare

Don’t ever do this mistake of passing statements like ‘Why can’t you be like your brother/sister?’ This not only inculcates a feeling of jealousy in them but also makes them feel like a failure. Don’t make them feel weak or incompetent in any manner, this may also develop a dislike between siblings.

A straight NO is too HARSH

If you keep saying no to them every now and then they will start losing faith in you. A straight no comes too harsh, modulate that no into something soft and polite and then say it. Instead of shouting out a NO to play inside the house tell them the weather is so good outside lets go in the park and play.

‘You can’t do this!’ is not the right way to say

Never shake a child’s self-confidence by de-motivating them, there might be certain things you know your child won’t be able to successfully accomplish but still never discourage him/her. There are better ways to put your point across, tell them do it and if you face any problem let me know, and we will do it together. This will encourage them to try new things and will also help build their confidence.

‘Don’t talk to me’ goes wrong

Never abandon your child, this will turn very negative and can have a very bad impact on a child. If they have done something wrong try explaining those things, listening to them and answering all their questions so that they understand their mistake and being careful in future.

Don’t say ‘Girls/Boys don’t do that’

Never do any kind of gender discrimination between children, be it for small things even this brings negativity and in the long run inculcates disrespect in the mind of a child for the opposite gender.

‘You are too big to do this!’

Don’t deprive him/her of their childhood, they will eventually grow up but for now, let them enjoy their childhood and don’t expect them to behave like grownups. Yes they might be mischievous but they are allowed to be that at this tender change, teach them discipline but on the other hand let them enjoy their childhood too.

Keep in mind these small points and you will be able to deliver a better atmosphere to your child, not only you will be able to understand them better but also your child will love your company and will make you his/her secret sharer.

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Explore New Languages to Discover the Real You!

If you talk to a man in a language he understands, that goes to his head, if you talk to him in his own language that goes to his heart. Foreign languages give you an opportunity to enter so many hearts. You should always allow yourself to explore new linguistic territories. No matter it proves productive to you or not you will enjoy the time spent educating yourself and enhancing your personality.

Let’s ponder on some reasons which will further entice you to learn foreign languages:

Give Your Brain a Boost: Speaking a second language each day, keeps the doctor away! Researchers have shown the cognitive benefits of learning a new language. Some positive outputs derived from learning foreign languages are memory improvement, longer attention span, a reduced risk of age-related cognitive decline and more. Foreign language acts like a brain booster and helps enhance your knowledge.

Open a New World of Job Opportunities: If this skill of yours goes up to your resume the probability of you getting your dream job grows. In this fast pacing world, every business is intended to expand and enhance and for such expansion, it requires global-minded people. Knowing different languages multiply your opportunity to be a global minded person. It can take you from your town to out of town in just a few steps.

It makes you a better learner: Every time you learn a new language, you find it easier than the one before. The reason is simple, with every new language you study, you figure out ways to learn more efficiently. As you spend time learning your first foreign language, you’ll identify your own inefficiencies and eliminate them. You’ll start gaining momentum in your chosen language and learn more quickly. It makes you a better learner on the whole.

Establish Cross-Cultural Relationship: At times you feel out of place and uncomfortable, you feel you want to be a part of the conversation but you couldn’t. This happens when language becomes a barrier. You may have friends across the globe that you cannot connect to because of the impersonal language usage. Why is English always the only alternatives and at times, not even that? You can’t learn every language in the world and have an intimate knowledge of every single culture out there. But if there’s even one culture that you’d like to understand better or even one person in your life you’d like to know better, then one of the best ways you can start is by learning to speak their language.

Better perspective about your own culture: The best way to know your culture is through the eyes of others. Foreign Language study creates more positive attitudes and less prejudice toward people who belong to different cultures. Language and culture are intimately linked, learning a new language will give you an insight into another culture. You will not only judge your culture better but will adapt the positivity of other cultures as well to grow holistically.

It makes you an expert tourist: There’s always a danger of obvious tourists being targets, or getting hassled by touts, which can ruin your experience of a place where people are actually warm and genuine. The knowledge of various languages makes you sound smart here; you not only save your money and energy but manage to have a good holiday experience. You meet interesting people all over the globe when you travel and knowing their language is the biggest aid to make memories.

It Makes you Open-Minded: Learning a foreign language and getting soaked into an entirely new culture and worldview is the surest way to become an open-minded, understanding individual, and that is, absolutely priceless. Seeing the world from a different perspective and understanding where you and others come from is a fantastic, eye-opening experience.

Learning a new language is altogether a new experience and a new way of living. We often forget these things which add so much to our personality. Our education system lacks in such practices, it should be a part of academics when they benefit you in the long run. Recent scientific research on the brain suggests that learning foreign languages makes students smarter overall.  Among the many benefits, it increases students’ mental focus, reading and writing abilities, and even improves mathematical skills. When such skills enhance the children’s ability to perform better, they should be taught to them at the very start itself. Then learning foreign languages won’t appear like a burden but a part of their academics.

Delhi Public School has been one such institute which has been doing a remarkable job in giving their students a holistic growth and better approach towards academics. They have this fascinating ‘7 Language Program’ in their branches in Indirapuram and Meerut road respectively. They have included languages like German, Arabic, French, Sanskrit, Japanese, and Chinese etc. The inclusion of these seven languages is very well drafted keeping in mind the global economy, growth, and development perspective.

Such excellent reach and exposure to students not only adds to their skills but also draft their personality well. Their confidence level increase to many-a-fold, DPS share outclass performances of their students in not just academics but cultural and sports competitions as well. There is a huge chunk of students learning some or the other language which is helping them grow better. It’s a clear observation that these students perform better on all grounds.

Learning another language is not only learning different words for the same things but learning another way to think about things. It’s a whole new life you get with new possibilities to meet new endeavours.

If you talk to a man in a language he understands, that goes to his head, if you talk to him in his own language that goes to his heart. Foreign languages give you an opportunity to enter so many hearts. You should always allow yourself to explore new linguistic territories. No matter it proves productive to you or not you will enjoy the time spent educating yourself and enhancing your personality.