Parenting

Bond with Your Kids – Parent-Child Bonding!

Parenting isn’t a practice, it’s a daily learning experience and in this journey, you need to be much calmer, composed, patient and giving than ever before. Every parent fights lot many odds to give the best to their child. They try their best to offer their kids a comfortable home, healthy lifestyle and the best education so that they become a successful personality tomorrow. In doing so much for their kids, they tend to miss on something very important, their bond with their child. A parent-child bond is an essential for healthy parenting and a joyful childhood. In becoming responsible parents and arranging everything to the best of their ability at times parents forget to spend time with their child, become friends with them and enjoy their company.

The problem starts with, Is he/she lying?
Was he/she hiding something?
She/he is immature and will again do silly mistakes?

Many such questions hover you continuously and finally, you end up making healthy parenting a nightmare. So, here we get some simple solutions for your complex problem which surely must be bothering you till now. They sound simple but prove to be the best solution for you to enjoy your relationship with your kids.

Trust Me!

As parents, we are sensible enough to understand the importance of ‘Trust’ in every relationship. Then why do we tend to forget this principle when it comes to our kids? Why is always a doubt lingering when he/she asks to go out with friends? Why are you always sceptical in giving them permissions? Why do wrong thoughts and vague situations pop up in your head when they are out with friends? You do care which is an obvious reply but somewhere that care has taken the shape of doubt and raised a question on your trust? You don’t trust them when left alone with friends; you don’t trust their answers and start taking them as excuses. Stop doubting your kids and start trusting them, your trust would be a stepping stone in creating a friendly bond between you and your child.

Let’s Be Friends!

Any relation when starts with friendship last the longest be that friend to your child. Be their secret keeper and plan some fun together, you will enter their friend zone and come much closer. Being parents you are the closest to your child but when you will be their friends you won’t have to spy or keep a check on them, they will share their troubles and fears with you. Your relationship with them will grow to the next level.

Forget & Forgive

We all are humans and we tend to do mistakes, and so will your kids do. Being in the age group they are in, they will end up doing some mistakes but as parents, we need to forget them and move on without any baggage. Their past mistake should not govern their present or future, your decisions should not have a sense of fear because they did a mistake in past. We do mistakes, we improvise and we move ahead that’s the law of nature. As parents we are concerned but let the concern not remind them of their past mistakes. Don’t bring it up every time in the argument and make them feel bad, it was a mistake in the past let that be in the past.

It’s 21st Century – Fashion Matters!

Parents often don’t understand or misunderstand fashion, it’s nothing harmful or destructive, it’s something we should know and follow to stay tuned with the time. We send our kids to good schools and raise them well in the society, we expect them to be fast learners and smart personalities then why don’t we accept their fashion. We can definitely guide them and tell them where they go wrong but to say no to everything just because you think fashion is wrong is not justified. Accept the changing scenarios and your kids changing with them; guide them when they go wrong but with acceptance.

As parents take the first step and invite your kids to be your friends. You will love their company and they will love yours just hit the right track and start off now.

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Natural Learning is the Classic Learning!

Spending vacations at grandmother’s home, playing out in the park, cycling in the evening and enjoying the childhood games were a beautiful part of our memories. These memories not only gave us pleasure and enjoyment but made us learn many valuable lessons of life. The concept of team spirit was practically learned on the fields while putting our 100% in a cricket match to make our team win. The idea of unity is strength was learned while trying to dribble the basket ball for the first time. The concept of sharing was imbibed from the craft sessions in which we shared our colours and ideas to make the masterpiece together.

These childhood memories were an important learning ground for the children earlier but today, somewhere technology has given it a new version. It’s not that technology is bad and only has adverse effects but somewhere their overuse has affected our kid’s natural process of learning. In today’s time, kids enter into their isolated world with their video games and I-pads and miss out a lot. Inculcating empathy, a sense of care and the concept of sharing in the kids has become difficult as they resist in moving out of their isolated world.

As parents and teachers we need to cater to their isolation, because in no time they will get habitual to it and then taking them out of this zone will become very difficult.

Here we enlist certain points which as parents/teachers or guides  we need to follow and keep in mind to develop the much required qualities of empathy, caring, sharing, unity and more in our kids.

The Art of Observation

More than what is been said, how that has been said, the tone, the body language, the gestures count a lot. Now as adults and experience holders of life we have learned this art of decoding but our kids are just the beginners in this game of life. So, you need to teach them the art of observation. Let them explore and make them meet people; it can be their friends from school, the colony you stay in, relatives, siblings and more. When they will start meeting more people they will start learning the different behaviour patterns. Talk about these meetings of friends and relatives with them later and try to know how they feel about it. This will make them more observant and will make them learn how to deal with different behaviour patterns.
Become their co-readers

Good books not only add knowledge but also make kid compassionate and responsive. Many such books must be a part of their reading list, just be aware of the story and the characters in it. Discuss the stories or a particular scene in it with them and try and know what they feel about the entire thing.

Involve them in Act of Kindness

It doesn’t have to be big, anything small and sensitive enough would do. Asking them to share some of their toys and clothes with children who need them, asking them to share their lunch box with their friends in case his/her friend is not carrying one. Telling them how getting a smile on someone’s face makes you feel great about yourself. These small things are enough to introduce them the big concept of kindness.

Get to know their friends: During the vacation or weekends plan a get together for their friends don’t make your presence annoying or uncomfortable for them rather come up with something new. Some interesting conversation or an engaging game and in the process learn about their friends, how is their company and if they are in the right group matters a lot.

The world is changing and the pace of development is increasing every day let this development benefit your child but be ready to protect them from the adverse effects as well. Let the classics of learning be the same for them as they were for you, so they share your reflection!

Here’s a Plan for Your Child’s Summer Break!

The sun has come out all bright and hot and vacations are about to start. There is planning going on in every mind and the list been prepared for fun, frolic and some great time! Your little ones are really excited and looking forward to these 2 months of official off from their schools and academics. You need to be excited with them too, show them that excitement and make some thrilling summer plans with them so that their holidays are real fun.

They go to school daily and have tons of homework to be done, now is the time that they can enjoy some break and have some fun. Plan their summers in a manner which they enjoy, don’t bombard them with a set of learning activities which they don’t enjoy. Keep in mind their hobbies and choices and draft a plan in which they learn, enjoy and have some fun.

Here we make you ready so that you can make an amazing summer plan for your champ. Keep the below-mentioned points in minds and don’t forget personalization is the best so keep your child’s preferences and choices as your priority while planning for them.

Make It Unusual: In today’s time children have grown that extra edge they are technology friendly and know far more than you may know as a parent. So, try and be unusual and don’t stick to the traditional summer holiday plan, add a little creativity and make it fun for them.

It’s a break don’t make it school: Usually, parents have a tendency to bombard their kids with different types of summer learning activity ignoring the fact whether the kid appreciates it or not. Don’t make the holidays feel like another semi-school, if they enjoy dancing or music or art get them into those classes and if their interest’s lies outside classes let them be.

Plan it week by week: This will keep them interested and engaged because every week they will be introduced to do something new. Children initially have a very short interest span so to keep them involved you need to make it interesting by adding something new frequently. A week basis plan will be fun for them.

Introduce them to a new thing: Keeping your child’s interest and choices in mind, take a step towards introducing them to something new. If your child is interested is in maths and computers may be a workshop can work for you, if he/she has interests in art then may a craft class can do wonders. So, the idea is to introduce them to something keeping in mind their interest so that they can take it to the next level and the break turns into something fruitful as well.

Bond with them: This is a major chunk of their time which you can get without schools and much of the academic pressure so use it the best. Talk with them; get to know about their news beliefs, interests and friends. Plan a get together with them and invite all their friends home, don’t intervene their privacy let them enjoy the party but do try and meet their friends just to be assured of their company.

Let your child’s summer break be their time to enjoy and rejuvenate. Let them have a good break so that they can get back in the race with full enthusiasm and zeal. Don’t monitor them much and let them follow their hobbies and interest and do something creative this summer.

Positive Parenting – Be There for Your Child!

“Children learn more from what you are than what you teach.” They are sensitive and at times stubborn; they get excited soon and get disappointed in the same speed. They need your time and your presence around. A happy family and a peaceful loving surrounding is very important for a child to grow well. In this hectic life we have packed schedules taking out some quality time for your children is tough but equally vital. You need to spend some hours with them before dropping them to school or surprise them with a beautiful evening plan. Kids need special care and attention!

Here is something which will help you towards positive parenting after all your child deserves the best.

Introspect – Introspection is vital for positive parenting. At the end of each day, review your behaviour and interactions with your child. Have your communications been one-sided or was your child was equally involved and interested? Have you been too compelling and do you reserve your Childs right to disagree? Watch out the quality of communication with your child is it inspiring, encouraging or instructing.

Encourage – Parents are the first teacher of their child, their taught values, principles and skills are most important. You need to encourage them because your encouragement is their real strength. Your child relies on you for his/her confidence and success. The way you encourage them and celebrate their success, with the same grace motivate them in their failures also. You should not mourn and Detroit the environment at home post their failure in any form rather teach them how to take it the right way.

Interact – Always spend some quality hours with your child, talk to them and not about academics, school or anything which can convert into something serious and argumentative. Of course such talks are important too but there are times for them do not always incorporate such topics in your conversation with your child. At times just sit with them and show interest in something they like and something they like talking about. During these conversations if you share some advice it is best taken by them. It doesn’t appear like a commandment and will help draft their personality better.

Seek Help – Seeking professional help from a family counsellor or a psychologist is no longer considered as a taboo. Rather in the fast paced life which we lead, at times it becomes important to take some external help to indentify the negative behavioural patterns and break them. Though in India it is still not that popular but it has definitely picked up pace now. If your child or even you feel uncomfortable about certain situation or maybe there is too much negativity around, make sure you break it before it ruins your family’s happiness.

Every parent want their child’s happiness and they do everything possible for it from choosing the best school in town for them, to giving them all facilities and fulfilling all their requirements. But sometimes what we miss is that little thing which our child wants from us at times it is some quality time with them, or may be a good outing or it can be just some encouraging talks. You need to know what’s going on in their life as you are one of the most important persons in it.

Time to learn – How to talk to your Child!

“Children learn more from what you are than from what you teach.” Parenting is the most crucial and vital responsibility which needs to be met with an understanding attitude and a capability to listen, learn and teach. You should understand that it’s not always the parents who teach and impart wisdom it can be the other way round too. Be prepared to learn new things, admire their thought process and have the willingness and openness to appreciate it.

Children literally imbibe everything which they see and hear around them, this goes a long way in building their personality.

At times when you are in the middle of things and in all that rush, you end up speaking out unintentional words which land up very negatively in a child’s mind. You might not mean it, it was just lack of time or some sort of confusion going around but it has a very bad impact on your child’s mind.

So, you need to be extra careful and watch what you speak and it does not limit to only them. Be careful while talking to others as well when children are in proximity, as it is you should always be polite and good while talking to others but be little more alert when children are involved. Little bit of effort and a strong will, will make it happen!

Watch out for these 10 things which you should refrain from saying to your child.

Never say – ‘you are a bad boy/girl’

Never feed them with negative thoughts or actions, don’t give them any kind of fear. It hampers a child’s self-esteem when you categorize them as a bad boy or a girl. Explain them things, talk to them about positive good things. Don’t tell them that doing a mistake or anything mischievous will make them bad rather make them understand how their actions can hurt others and they will learn values rather than fearing to be bad and doing the right thing out of compulsion.

Don’t Compare

Don’t ever do this mistake of passing statements like ‘Why can’t you be like your brother/sister?’ This not only inculcates a feeling of jealousy in them but also makes them feel like a failure. Don’t make them feel weak or incompetent in any manner, this may also develop a dislike between siblings.

A straight NO is too HARSH

If you keep saying no to them every now and then they will start losing faith in you. A straight no comes too harsh, modulate that no into something soft and polite and then say it. Instead of shouting out a NO to play inside the house tell them the weather is so good outside lets go in the park and play.

‘You can’t do this!’ is not the right way to say

Never shake a child’s self-confidence by de-motivating them, there might be certain things you know your child won’t be able to successfully accomplish but still never discourage him/her. There are better ways to put your point across, tell them do it and if you face any problem let me know, and we will do it together. This will encourage them to try new things and will also help build their confidence.

‘Don’t talk to me’ goes wrong

Never abandon your child, this will turn very negative and can have a very bad impact on a child. If they have done something wrong try explaining those things, listening to them and answering all their questions so that they understand their mistake and being careful in future.

Don’t say ‘Girls/Boys don’t do that’

Never do any kind of gender discrimination between children, be it for small things even this brings negativity and in the long run inculcates disrespect in the mind of a child for the opposite gender.

‘You are too big to do this!’

Don’t deprive him/her of their childhood, they will eventually grow up but for now, let them enjoy their childhood and don’t expect them to behave like grownups. Yes they might be mischievous but they are allowed to be that at this tender change, teach them discipline but on the other hand let them enjoy their childhood too.

Keep in mind these small points and you will be able to deliver a better atmosphere to your child, not only you will be able to understand them better but also your child will love your company and will make you his/her secret sharer.

“Children learn more from what you are than from what you teach.” Parenting is the most crucial and vital responsibility which needs to be met with an understanding attitude and a capability to listen, learn and teach. You should understand that it’s not always the parents who teach and impart wisdom it can be the other way round too. Be prepared to learn new things, admire their thought process and have the willingness and openness to appreciate it.

Children literally imbibe everything which they see and hear around them, this goes a long way in building their personality.

At times when you are in the middle of things and in all that rush, you end up speaking out unintentional words which land up very negatively in a child’s mind. You might not mean it, it was just lack of time or some sort of confusion going around but it has a very bad impact on your child’s mind.

So, you need to be extra careful and watch what you speak and it does not limit to only them. Be careful while talking to others as well when children are in proximity, as it is you should always be polite and good while talking to others but be little more alert when children are involved. Little bit of effort and a strong will, will make it happen!

Watch out for these 10 things which you should refrain from saying to your child.

Never say – ‘you are a bad boy/girl’

Never feed them with negative thoughts or actions, don’t give them any kind of fear. It hampers a child’s self-esteem when you categorize them as a bad boy or a girl. Explain them things, talk to them about positive good things. Don’t tell them that doing a mistake or anything mischievous will make them bad rather make them understand how their actions can hurt others and they will learn values rather than fearing to be bad and doing the right thing out of compulsion.

Don’t Compare

Don’t ever do this mistake of passing statements like ‘Why can’t you be like your brother/sister?’ This not only inculcates a feeling of jealousy in them but also makes them feel like a failure. Don’t make them feel weak or incompetent in any manner, this may also develop a dislike between siblings.

A straight NO is too HARSH

If you keep saying no to them every now and then they will start losing faith in you. A straight no comes too harsh, modulate that no into something soft and polite and then say it. Instead of shouting out a NO to play inside the house tell them the weather is so good outside lets go in the park and play.

‘You can’t do this!’ is not the right way to say

Never shake a child’s self-confidence by de-motivating them, there might be certain things you know your child won’t be able to successfully accomplish but still never discourage him/her. There are better ways to put your point across, tell them do it and if you face any problem let me know, and we will do it together. This will encourage them to try new things and will also help build their confidence.

‘Don’t talk to me’ goes wrong

Never abandon your child, this will turn very negative and can have a very bad impact on a child. If they have done something wrong try explaining those things, listening to them and answering all their questions so that they understand their mistake and being careful in future.

Don’t say ‘Girls/Boys don’t do that’

Never do any kind of gender discrimination between children, be it for small things even this brings negativity and in the long run inculcates disrespect in the mind of a child for the opposite gender.

‘You are too big to do this!’

Don’t deprive him/her of their childhood, they will eventually grow up but for now, let them enjoy their childhood and don’t expect them to behave like grownups. Yes they might be mischievous but they are allowed to be that at this tender change, teach them discipline but on the other hand let them enjoy their childhood too.

Keep in mind these small points and you will be able to deliver a better atmosphere to your child, not only you will be able to understand them better but also your child will love your company and will make you his/her secret sharer.