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Bond with Your Kids – Parent-Child Bonding!

Parenting isn’t a practice, it’s a daily learning experience and in this journey, you need to be much calmer, composed, patient and giving than ever before. Every parent fights lot many odds to give the best to their child. They try their best to offer their kids a comfortable home, healthy lifestyle and the best education so that they become a successful personality tomorrow. In doing so much for their kids, they tend to miss on something very important, their bond with their child. A parent-child bond is an essential for healthy parenting and a joyful childhood. In becoming responsible parents and arranging everything to the best of their ability at times parents forget to spend time with their child, become friends with them and enjoy their company.

The problem starts with, Is he/she lying?
Was he/she hiding something?
She/he is immature and will again do silly mistakes?

Many such questions hover you continuously and finally, you end up making healthy parenting a nightmare. So, here we get some simple solutions for your complex problem which surely must be bothering you till now. They sound simple but prove to be the best solution for you to enjoy your relationship with your kids.

Trust Me!

As parents, we are sensible enough to understand the importance of ‘Trust’ in every relationship. Then why do we tend to forget this principle when it comes to our kids? Why is always a doubt lingering when he/she asks to go out with friends? Why are you always sceptical in giving them permissions? Why do wrong thoughts and vague situations pop up in your head when they are out with friends? You do care which is an obvious reply but somewhere that care has taken the shape of doubt and raised a question on your trust? You don’t trust them when left alone with friends; you don’t trust their answers and start taking them as excuses. Stop doubting your kids and start trusting them, your trust would be a stepping stone in creating a friendly bond between you and your child.

Let’s Be Friends!

Any relation when starts with friendship last the longest be that friend to your child. Be their secret keeper and plan some fun together, you will enter their friend zone and come much closer. Being parents you are the closest to your child but when you will be their friends you won’t have to spy or keep a check on them, they will share their troubles and fears with you. Your relationship with them will grow to the next level.

Forget & Forgive

We all are humans and we tend to do mistakes, and so will your kids do. Being in the age group they are in, they will end up doing some mistakes but as parents, we need to forget them and move on without any baggage. Their past mistake should not govern their present or future, your decisions should not have a sense of fear because they did a mistake in past. We do mistakes, we improvise and we move ahead that’s the law of nature. As parents we are concerned but let the concern not remind them of their past mistakes. Don’t bring it up every time in the argument and make them feel bad, it was a mistake in the past let that be in the past.

It’s 21st Century – Fashion Matters!

Parents often don’t understand or misunderstand fashion, it’s nothing harmful or destructive, it’s something we should know and follow to stay tuned with the time. We send our kids to good schools and raise them well in the society, we expect them to be fast learners and smart personalities then why don’t we accept their fashion. We can definitely guide them and tell them where they go wrong but to say no to everything just because you think fashion is wrong is not justified. Accept the changing scenarios and your kids changing with them; guide them when they go wrong but with acceptance.

As parents take the first step and invite your kids to be your friends. You will love their company and they will love yours just hit the right track and start off now.

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Integrating art into the classroom

Art is the basic expression of the human mind and the creative reflection of the world we live in. Today we have realised that art has to be incorporated to make the learning process more interesting. Arts being integrated into the curriculum will prove beneficial for both the child as well as teachers in long run. As this century demands more of experiential learning than traditional learning as it makes children enjoy their subjects. Though we cannot move away from the fact that traditional learning is still the backbone of our educational system. Teachers are incorporating arts into the curriculum; they are increasingly integrating arts into the core subject areas. Art has the power to engage children in experiential learning so that children can learn more through the experience of their activity.

It should be promoted as stand-alone subjects as well as a cross curricular subject in all schools.

There are a couple of programmes which are designed to help arts integrate well into the classroom.

The Children Programmes plays a pivotal role as this is majorly designed to involve and inspire children. We need to start by encouraging children to participate and get involved in speaking like elocutions, extempore, debates. Even vocabulary can play a great role as having great word power works like an asset during delivering a speech or even during writing a script or content.

We must indulge children into art work like preparing collage on the topic they have studied. The artwork could illustrate anything related to their subjects. Through this artwork, it would help them explore their areas of interest and even help them understand their subject.

Encourage children to participate in drama. Asking them to involve in role playing as through this they would be able to understand a story character or event.

Involving children in activities like brochure, posture or advertisement making which help them with graphic skills and creative thinking.

Lastly, we must introduce children to artistic works that match their curriculum. Mythology and ancient stories throughout the century have inspired sculptures.

Teachers must be aware of various cultures across the globe including our nation. They must explore and be able to inculcate this amongst children. Art is an integral part so it cannot be skipped. Art must be appreciated by all.  Teachers should even come up with ideas, thoughts to improve art skills, so that children are able to understand the value and have a constant view of improving their art skills. As we move towards the century where arts will play a major role, let’s incorporate art into the teaching methodology.

Natural Learning is the Classic Learning!

Spending vacations at grandmother’s home, playing out in the park, cycling in the evening and enjoying the childhood games were a beautiful part of our memories. These memories not only gave us pleasure and enjoyment but made us learn many valuable lessons of life. The concept of team spirit was practically learned on the fields while putting our 100% in a cricket match to make our team win. The idea of unity is strength was learned while trying to dribble the basket ball for the first time. The concept of sharing was imbibed from the craft sessions in which we shared our colours and ideas to make the masterpiece together.

These childhood memories were an important learning ground for the children earlier but today, somewhere technology has given it a new version. It’s not that technology is bad and only has adverse effects but somewhere their overuse has affected our kid’s natural process of learning. In today’s time, kids enter into their isolated world with their video games and I-pads and miss out a lot. Inculcating empathy, a sense of care and the concept of sharing in the kids has become difficult as they resist in moving out of their isolated world.

As parents and teachers we need to cater to their isolation, because in no time they will get habitual to it and then taking them out of this zone will become very difficult.

Here we enlist certain points which as parents/teachers or guides  we need to follow and keep in mind to develop the much required qualities of empathy, caring, sharing, unity and more in our kids.

The Art of Observation

More than what is been said, how that has been said, the tone, the body language, the gestures count a lot. Now as adults and experience holders of life we have learned this art of decoding but our kids are just the beginners in this game of life. So, you need to teach them the art of observation. Let them explore and make them meet people; it can be their friends from school, the colony you stay in, relatives, siblings and more. When they will start meeting more people they will start learning the different behaviour patterns. Talk about these meetings of friends and relatives with them later and try to know how they feel about it. This will make them more observant and will make them learn how to deal with different behaviour patterns.
Become their co-readers

Good books not only add knowledge but also make kid compassionate and responsive. Many such books must be a part of their reading list, just be aware of the story and the characters in it. Discuss the stories or a particular scene in it with them and try and know what they feel about the entire thing.

Involve them in Act of Kindness

It doesn’t have to be big, anything small and sensitive enough would do. Asking them to share some of their toys and clothes with children who need them, asking them to share their lunch box with their friends in case his/her friend is not carrying one. Telling them how getting a smile on someone’s face makes you feel great about yourself. These small things are enough to introduce them the big concept of kindness.

Get to know their friends: During the vacation or weekends plan a get together for their friends don’t make your presence annoying or uncomfortable for them rather come up with something new. Some interesting conversation or an engaging game and in the process learn about their friends, how is their company and if they are in the right group matters a lot.

The world is changing and the pace of development is increasing every day let this development benefit your child but be ready to protect them from the adverse effects as well. Let the classics of learning be the same for them as they were for you, so they share your reflection!

A Disclaimer for Parents Before Result Time

The season of examination has just subsided and few schools are still about to wrap up, the pressure, tension, and seriousness in the atmosphere was about to clear when the parents start with their moles of expectations and unbearable pressure for a good result.

Excessive academic pressure on kids can backfire severely and end up affecting the child negatively. The undue pressure and a constant greed of expectation from them may destroy a child’s calibre and a setback may break down his/her self-respect and confidence.

Worry, Worry, Worry!!

By parent’s constant pressure to perform better a child can feel less inspired and more threatened. You need to know and judge the child well, there are some who are confident and bold but some are shy and introvert. The manner to treat a child depends on his/her nature and behaviour. The pressure can make them feel paralyzed and then they won’t actually learn but just get mechanical about the whole process. They start feeling that they are not good enough and this invites stress and anxiety which can be very dangerous for their mental state. If your child expresses any signs of stress or anxiety take it seriously and talk to him/her about it. Help them feel better through encouraging talks and supportive atmosphere at home.

“I’m not good enough”

Your constant pressure and high expectations can make them fall a prey to low self-esteem and loss of confidence. If they miss your mark of expectation by the minimal difference it can cause bad mental impact in their minds. They will start believing that grades and marks are the only parameters to judge their hard work and efforts, which will cause them harm in the longer run. Spend time with your child and emphasize to them the importance of working hard and giving their best and that marks are just an output and you do not judge them on it.

Bad Behaviour

Too much pressure to do well in school can involve kids in unethical practices as well. Your continuous pressure to get an A+ grade for all subjects can threaten a child and giving up to his/her fear they end up cheating and getting involved in all such practices. At times too much stress and anxiety may also involve them in malpractices of drugs and alcohol, so keep a watch on your Childs behaviour and never stress the fact that marks are the only motive of their life.

Always be there for your Child

Every parent wants their child to do well in life and that’s one reason they pressure their child for academic growth but always remember encouragement is better than pressure. Understand your child and his/her emotions, every child is different so don’t compare. They will know the seriousness of doing well in exams and living up to your expectation but let them live their childhood and enjoy their innocence.

Let them choose their favourite subject and give them the time to go out and play, they will make their future just give them their space.

Keep-your-classroom-senses-alive

“School is a building which has four walls with tomorrow inside.” A child starts his journey with an innocent heart, a creative mind and number of dreams in his eyes. School plays a major role in moulding the student’s character and personality. A child spends a major chunk of his years in school inside the classrooms; these rooms make their future and give wings to their dreams.

Choosing a school for your child is a crucial task, there are various factors which you need to keep in mind and judge the school accordingly. Classrooms play a vital role in making or breaking a student’s interest in studies. Children are lively soul they love creativity and want to explore. While building a classroom one should think from student’s perspective and watch out for the things which a student would love seeing in a classroom environment.

Here are some tips on how to use the five senses to guide your classroom environment making it inviting for the students.

Sight – See Your Classroom through Fresh Eyes

Students enter a class with various thoughts in mind; they are excited, full of enthusiasm and burning with energy. They need the right direction and the correct destination for this energy to deliver fruitful results. A well thoughtful sight drafted for the students help in developing their interest and engagement in the class. When a student enters the class a neat blackboard, a well displayed smart-class projector, beautifully decorated bulletin boards and well-laid interiors makes them comfortable in no time. Sight has a major impact in a student’s mind, a classroom can leave a lively impact on a student but a little miss of basic ingredients can change it to gloomy as well. So, be careful and make your classroom interesting, engaging and comforting for your students.

Smell – The Scent of School Spirit

The aroma of a place plays a vital role in setting up the mood in the right direction. A bad odour or an acrid smell can put off the mood and is considered to be an unwelcoming sign. Students are fascinated with a good smell and a well-kept classroom. Remember cleanliness is a must, every day the dustbins should be cleaned and properly maintained. A good room freshener is a must which will help to keep the student’s mood fresh and light. Make sure that the moment students enter the classroom they feel at home!

Sound – Creating a Classroom Soundtrack

Once a student is inside the classroom they need to be engaged and involved so that the purpose of them sitting there is sorted. Teachers should be careful that they are audible till the last bench. It shouldn’t be a lecture-centric class rather the theme of the classroom should be conversational. Make sure the volume during the presentations and smart classes should neither be too high nor too low but just the perfect for the students to stay involved and intact.

Touch – Mix Textures & Add Colours

As it is said ‘Look and Feel’, we achieve the look factor by paying heat to the sight of our classroom but the feel also matters. So be careful while drafting the internal infrastructure of the classroom, the furniture should be well placed and in proper condition without any wear and tear. If there are some tables or chairs which have being distorted over the time, they should be replaced. The windows, doors, and ventilators all should be well maintained, any electronic gadgets in the classroom like projectors, Tv screen, fans, lights etc all should be kept in good condition with neatly tapped wires.

Taste – Sweeten the Back to School Transition

Keep your classroom tastefully done, a well kept and neatly drafted classroom is appreciated by both students and parents. Once a student enters a classroom he/she should feel comfortable and get homely vibes. Add some celebration to your classroom, birthdays or good performance of the students can be a call for a little party with some chocolates and sweets in everyone’s pocket.

Knowing that your classroom is a place where a student should feel comfortable to learn and take risks gives you an added bonus right from the get-go!   You should have a classroom that screams out “Welcome to our learning this year!”